Wednesday, January 16, 2008

Driving in Laundry Baskets

As I sit here trying to put into words a summary of our first month as parents, the boys are sitting in a laundry basket going for a drive. Note to self: We do not need any toys ever. Laundry baskets, boxes, and couch cushions work just fine. This last month has definitely been a time of adjustments and inconceivable joy and excitement over the perfectness of God's plans!
Kenneth and Michael showed up on our doorstep on Dec. 10. We immediately fell in love with their sweet faces, energetic personalities, and every single little thing about them. By the end of the first day they were calling us mommy and daddy. By the 4th day, Kenneth was saying, "I love you." After 2 weeks, they had met every member of our immediate families and then some. After one month, each boy prays at night and they are starting to gain an understanding of who God is. That is by far the greatest milestone!

A Little Bit about the Boys
Kenneth is quite the chatterbox. He loves looking out the window, getting very excited if a motorcycle, dog, or birds happen to go by. He loves to help make beds, load the dishwasher, and pick up toys. I think his favorite part of helping is telling mommy and daddy exactly what they are supposed to do. Both of us also being first borns, we don't always handle being bossed by a 3 year old very well. His favorite game is Hide-n-Seek. He makes sure to always tell us where he is going to be hiding, so the challenge is pretending to look for him. He is always ready to play and have fun!
Michael has the ability to make me melt any time he smiles. Michael is definitely a goof ball. We have laughed until tears are running down our faces multiple times. He throws several temper tantrums a day, which is pretty normanl for a 1 year old. It's just really hard not to laugh at his patterns. He will always lay down on the floor, kick off his shoes, and throw anything in his reach. If he is eating food, it will get spit out and thrown across the table. You don't want to be in his line of fire when he is angry. He is almost always over it in about 10 seconds. He is very busy and it is impossible to get him to sit still unless he is tired. He also loves to play, but I think his favorite thing is to dump out all of the toys and then play inside the baskets.

God's Perfect Plan
We know that this is the beginning of the family that God has for us! It is so awesome to rest in the knowledge that this was His plan all along. There are many things that continue to show us that this is exactly right, but I will share just one thing. Ever since I was a little girl, I have had a nasty habit of drinking out of my mom's water glass. If she left it within reach, I was draining it and never even thinking to refill it. I do this mostly because I am too lazy to fix my own water. I must confess that even at the mature age of almost 27, I still do this everytime I am with my mom. Well, I think she must have been praying for God to help me see the error of my ways. I have two little boys who always find my freshly filled water glass and drink every last drop! It makes me smile every time because I know that I am getting exactly what I deserve, what I need, and what I have wanted and longed for so many years!

3 comments:

H Noble said...

Wonderful to hear the update and about their personalities! And I love that you see the blessing in having someone keep your glass empty!
Holly

Mary said...

Rebecca & Matt, I don't know you but I was searching for a blog on foster parents as my husband and I are preparing to say goodbye to our second placement in the next couple of months. I think you have a wonderful attitude about focusing on the children that come into your home rather than on your feelings of loss when they leave. I also think it is very interesting that you feel God has called you to this work and you have put your trust in Him. That sure sounds familiar!

If you don't mind my asking- what is the status of Kenneth and Michael? Have their birthparent(s) parental rights been terminated? Have they outgrown the "honeymoon phase" yet?

Anne Marie Criswell said...

Hi Rebecca and Matt. I stumbled upon your blog today. I actually did a search on Google for "Convincing Your Husband to Becoming Foster Parents" and your blog came up. We have been trying for a baby for almost two years. I, like you, have known since I was a little girl that I just wanted to be a mother. Your blog really touched me. Our first year of trying was emotionally tough, but for awhile I have been at peace knowing that one way or another God would provide us with a baby. As of today I am yet at another point in this journey to motherhood. I think that God may be calling my husband and I to become foster parents. We have discussed adoption, but for my husband fostering, at this point, is not the way to go. We have not discussed it much, but I feel God calling me to at least research this farther. I'd love to hear more on how you are doing with your boys. If you are interested in sharing you can email me at acriswell7@gmail.com

Your Sister in Christ,
Anne Marie